Friendship

There’s this thing going on recently in my circle of friends. It’s the 16 personality type quiz. It’s quite legit, I must say. Our results have cause quite a shift in the way we interact and feel about each other. And I was asked, “do you have feelings?” And my dear, the answer is YES. I do have feelings, I have always had them, and will always have them. (Thank you for asking and being brave to confront your emotions.)

Another thing that happened recently is dance (just now, actually). To keep things in suspense (and to make sure you come to watch), I won’t disclose much. But the piece is about friendship. Today, we were asked, “what is friendship?”. That, as well as the happenings in the above paragraph, inspired me to really think hard about what friendship is to me. So, here goes.



Friendship is not talking for half a year and knowing you guys still love each other.
Friendship is wearing pyjamas together in town.
Friendship is receiving a call at 3 in the morning to hear your friend sobbing her guts out because she just broke up.
Friendship is feeling miserable for not being able to do anything to take away the pain.
Friendship is saving up $800 each to start up a magazine together.
Friendship is understanding that some people are better at dry sadness and cold anger than wet sadness and hot anger.
Friendship is ‘scolding’ each other for not replying messages.
Friendship is understanding that not replying a message does not mean the other person is mad.
Friendship is staying up to talk about the silliest things.
Friendship is telling each other about the stupid thing you did and trusting they won’t spread it.
Friendship is not making breakfast plans so everyone can sleep in and no one will be late.
Friendship is spilling the right secrets at the right time.

Friendship is so many things.
But perhaps the best way to describe friendship (for me) is that warm fuzzy feeling I feel at the pit of my stomach when I look around and see how blessed I am to have so many people I can call “friends”. (Mind you, not everyone is privileged to have that term bestowed on them)

Thank you friends.

I’m capable of feelings. And I do have feelings. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of expressing it. Please remember that not showing emotions doesn't mean they don't exist (thank you very much)!